I recently had the opportunity to attend a women’s only event at my old CrossFit gym, CrossFit Solafide in Clarksville, Tennessee. This event celebrates what makes women unique in both life and CrossFit and emphasizes that we all have a story that cannot be told just by looking at someone. All of us have been through things that are traumatic and challenging and impact how we relate to others and our environment.
When I started at CrossFit Solafide in August 2015 I was angry and unsure of much of my life. I had a very strong sense that I knew exactly what I was supposed to do and how it would happen. It turns out I was sorely mistaken. Luckily, I had wonderful, amazing people in my life that helped me alter my expectations and embrace the changes that were occurring in my life. Without the people that were in my life at that time there’s no way that Break the Mold CrossFit would have ever become a reality.
Why do these reasons I’m about to list matter to you as a CrossFit athlete? Positive people in your life will truly affect if you go to the “good dark place” or “bad dark place” when you workout. The “good dark place” is where you tunnel vision, focus and get the work done. The “bad dark place” is where you tell yourself all the awful things you think about yourself. We prefer the “good dark place”. Positive people lift you up, encourage you, and tell you how it is when you need it (even if you don’t want it). In short, they make you better.
They lift you up.
People sometimes tear down others, usually because they are so insecure in themselves that they do not know how to handle someone who is strong willed, or better looking, or more successful than themselves. Positive people, on the other hand, lift up the ones they interact with on a daily basis with kind words, encouragement, and a smile.
They stand beside you and celebrate your accomplishments with you.
Great people stick around for the end of the workout until the very last person finishes. They do sit ups with you when you’re the last one going, they cheer you on, and encourage you to come back to the gym after a hiatus. These people can make a bad day better just by being near you, encouraging you, and believing in you.
They tell you what you need to hear.
Truly great people will tell you the hard stuff you don’t want to hear, “You could’ve gone faster”, “You did great today but need to improve on _____”, “You’re being rude”. All of it, the good, bad and the ugly keeps you honest and humble and ensures you have an open and honest relationship with the great people that influence you every day. Is it easy to hear? Not always. Is it necessary? You bet.
Our gym is full of amazingly wonderful people that lift you up and care about your success. Ready to meet some of them? Join us on Saturday at 10am for a free workout with donuts and a photo booth! Let us know you’ll be there by RSVP’ing on Facebook.